This is one of the story of my colleague :
When I was fourteen, my family moved from Nebraska to Texas. It was the middle of my ninth-grade year. Junior high is always an awkward time, but the move during this critical year made it even more difficult.
I remember walking into the school cafeteria for the first time. I was all by myself. The other kids had the luxury of established friendships. I didn’t know a soul. The cliques were already defined.
After making my way through the serving line, I slid into the nearest open seat. The kids at the table gave me the once-over, wrinkled their noses, and then snickered. I could feel my face getting red with embarrassment. I looked down at my food.
Finally, one of the kids broke the ice. “Man! You have one BIG nose!”
I was mortified. I didn’t know what to say. I wanted to cry, but I managed a little laugh—like it didn’t really bother me. But it did.
Every day from that point forward, I would look at myself in the mirror. All I could see was that big fat nose. It dwarfed every other feature. I studied it from every angle, but kept coming back to the same conclusion: I was merely a life support system for a nose. It was my defining feature.
Thankfully, He eventually grew out of this perception. But it literally took him twenty years. Even now, he is a little self-conscious about it.
It just goes to show you how powerful words can be. A careless word can shape—or misshape—someone’s reality for years to come.
Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear” (NASB).
This verse provides three characteristics of wholesome speech:
- Wholesome words build people up. This is the meaning of the word “edification.” It’s the same word from which we get “edifice” or building. Other people, are temples. As leaders, we have the privilege of co-laboring with God to build these living cathedrals.
- Wholesome words are timely. The right words at the wrong time can be just as damaging as the wrong words. Words left unsaid can also be hurtful. As leaders, it takes discernment to know when and if to speak. The right word spoken at the right time can make all the difference for someone.
- Wholesome words provide grace. I take this as more than merely being generous or accommodating—though those are both important. I see grace as also the power of God to do His will. As leaders, our words can either empower people and make them want to press on or diminish them and make them want to quit.
King Solomon said, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue”. Every day, we are shaping reality for someone by the words that we use with them. The choice is ours. How will our words impact others?
Question: How have the words of another—positive or negative—impacted your life?
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